The infidelity is usually one of the most bitter drinks may have on the couple. It says you can overcome anything except an infidelity. It is true that many couples forgive infidelity, especially when there are children involved but the reality is that after an infidelity, trust is lost and rebuild costs.
Whether you decide to forgive or not, the question arises overcoming infidelity? Can you ever trust either the unfaithful partner or someone else?
The most important thing to learn of an affair is to talk about what happened. It’s painful but it is the best way to heal internally; Why? Because many times, the infidelity exposes flaws and shortcomings that exist in our relationship and that are discovered by an event like this. Talk, ask questions, discuss how and why may help us avoid repeating mistakes either in this or in a subsequent relationship.
Also, speaking, questioning, pulling out all the doubts, even the slightest help us to get us the matter of the head more quickly, because if you are gaps or concerns, your mind will recreate dialogue or situations that may never have existed and you are tormenting.
Another point to remember is not to listen to outsiders. Neither parents nor friends. It is true that one needs to talk about what happened, but often the advice and opinions of others, especially people so close to you as subjective and therefore can only make you see things in a distorted way. If you want to fix things, talk to your partner and anyone else. Fix things between you.
If you decide to forgive and move on, you should strive to rebuild the lost trust. Of course, you must make sure your partner is really sorry and mean it, otherwise you could expose yourself to this very painful situation again. If you decide to forgive, strive to forget about it. If you roll it up in every discussion they have, this will only be wearing the couple.
What about if you decide to forgive and move alone? Can you beat this time?
Of course. An infidelity does not make you less attractive or less women. Do not believe erroneously that the fault is entirely yours. Nothing justifies an affair. For more reasons than the infidel has an infidelity is not the solution.
So if you decide to go it alone, do not stay the rest of your life mourning. Try your hand at work, do things that make you feel good or things that you could not do like traveling, register yourself in the gym, start a hobby, going out with friends. That you’ll be helping to reacquaint yourself as a woman and why not another chance have with someone who valuesyou.